Woman writing in her journal on a death anniversary to ease anxiety

Death anniversaries can be hard not only on the day itself, but in the days and weeks leading up to it. If you’ve ever felt anxious, heavy, or “off” before an important date and didn’t know why, you’re not alone. In this gentle guide, I’ll walk you through seven ways to plan ahead with care so you can ease anxiety, feel more supported, and honor your loved one in a meaningful way. You’ll also find a free worksheet to help you reflect and prepare.

How to Ease Anxiety Before a Death Anniversary

While grief is like a roller coaster, and rarely feels “normal,” most of us have the natural capacity to make it to the other side. Along the journey we will feel a myriad of uncomfortable, intrusive and most of all unwelcome sensations. The pain we feel as a result of losing someone we love seems unfair, but it is natural, and while the loss itself is permanent, the intensity of pain will subside.

The Dual Process Model of Coping With Bereavement: How It Applies in Real Life
Moving on after someone dies woman looking at photo

After someone dies, you may wonder whether you are supposed to start moving on. Looking at photos, talking about them, or thinking about them throughout the day can bring comfort, but it can also make you question whether you are holding on too tightly. Many people worry that if the sadness fades, the connection might fade too. Grief does not ask you to leave someone behind. Instead, it often becomes a process of learning how to carry their memory forward as your life continues.

Moving On After Someone Dies: Why You Don’t Have to Leave Them Behind