While grief is like a roller coaster, and rarely feels “normal,” most of us have the natural capacity to make it to the other side. Along the journey we will feel a myriad of uncomfortable, intrusive and most of all unwelcome sensations. The pain we feel as a result of losing someone we love seems unfair, but it is natural, and while the loss itself is permanent, the intensity of pain will subside.

The Dual Process Model of Grief: Navigating the Spiral

When someone we love dies it is not uncommon to have moments where we expect them to return to us. We absentmindedly set the table for two, or pick up the ringing phone and expect it to be their voice on the other end of the line. While not everyone who grieves will experience this magical thinking, it may help to know that it is normal, at least for a period of time.

A Different Kind Of New Year: Coping With Grief In “The Year of Firsts”

Thank you Craig for bringing up the “time is a healer” myth. Psychologi­st and thanatolog­ist Dr. Robert Neimeyer (and his crew at the University of Memphis, including Joe Currier) report that time only has a 1% effect on bereavemen­t. It isn’t the amount of time, but what is done with the time that matters. (Yes,

New Ways of Thinking About Grief