Coping with sibling loss tips and insights

Grieving Your Sibling, Podcast, Traumatic Loss


​​Coping With Sibling Loss

Tips & Insights From A Sibling Survivor & Grief Professional ​

With Heidi Horsley


The death of a brother or sister can be devastating, but all too often it goes unacknowledged or at least minimized. Social cues direct bereaved siblings to "be strong for your parents," but how can you be strong when your world is shattered by loss? Heidi Horsley is no stranger to this kind of pain. Her brother, Scott, died in an automobile accident, alongside her cousin. This life changing experience inspired her to be a champion for grieving siblings and earn a doctorate in psychology. In this episode of the Mindfulness & Grief Podcast, Heidi shares her story of love and loss and hope, and shares tips and insights to help you cope with sibling loss. She explores the strained parent/child dynamic that often occurs after this type of loss, and why parents might think their surviving children are "over" their grief when they are anything but. Dr. Heidi closes the show with an invitation for grieving siblings to join her in the crusade to shine a light on this disenfranchised grief. 

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About Dr. Heidi Horsley

Dr. Heidi Horsley is an internationally known grief expert and has taught numerous courses at Columbia University for over 16 years.  Dr. Horsley is a Licensed Psychologist and Social Worker. She holds a Psychology Doctorate from the University of San Francisco, a Master’s degree in Social Work from Columbia University, and a Master’s degree in Mental Health Counseling from Loyola University in New Orleans.

Dr. Horsley co-hosts an award winning weekly television show and podcast, and is the Executive Director and Co-Founder of the Open to Hope Foundation, an international organization committed to providing hope and resources to those grieving.  In addition, she has a private practice, specializing in grief and loss.  Dr. Horsley serves on the Advisory Board for the Tragedy Assistance Program for Survivors of Military Loss (TAPS), the
Children's Brain Tumor Foundation, and the Elisabeth Kubler-Ross Foundation.  She also served on the National Board of Directors for The Compassionate Friends, for eight years.

Dr. Horsley has co-authored 8 books on grief and loss. She has appeared on ABC’s 20/20, and been quoted in the Metro World News, Washington Post, Time Magazine, Newsday, and the New York Daily News, in addition to many other media venues.  She gives keynote presentations, workshops and professional continuing education courses throughout the country for health care professionals.  

Dr. Horsley worked for 10 yrs. as a co-investigator for the FDNY-Columbia University Family Guidance Program; a study which looked at traumatic loss over time in families of firefighters killed in the 9/11 World Trade Center attacks.  Through this 9/11 study, Dr. Horsley provided ongoing intervention and follow-up to firefighter widows and their children, and facilitated groups for bereaved siblings.  In addition, Dr. Horsley supervised the social work staff at Harlem Democracy Charter Schools in NYC for four years.

Dr. Horsley's social work career has included work in a variety of settings, including; California Pacific Medical Center Adult & Child Psychiatry Depts., University of San Francisco Mental Health Clinic, St. Lukes-Roosevelt Hospital Adult & Child Psychiatry Depts. in NYC, Manhattan Psychiatric Center, Hope Haven Residential Treatment Center in New Orleans, and Loyola University Counseling Center in New Orleans.  Dr. Horsley's research interests and publications are in the area of grief and loss, and her doctoral dissertation was on the sudden death of a sibling.

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