Loving Kindness Meditation

By Heather Stang, MA, C-IAYT

loving kindness meditation

Metta, the meditative practice of loving-kindness, is not only a way to send well wishes to those you care about, but can support you in being compassionate to those in your life that you find difficult, or even downright hostile.

Metta Prayer of Loving Kindness

May you be happy, as I wish to be happy.
May you know peace, as I wish to know peace.
May you be free from suffering, as I wish to be free from suffering.

First, find yourself in a comfortable seated position, or practice Metta while walking mindfully. Then, using the words above, visualize and send well wishes to the following people in this order:

1. To someone you respect and love: “May you be happy, as I wish to be happy…..”
2. To Yourself: “May I be happy…”
3. To others in your life you love: “May you all be happy, as I wish to be happy…..”
4. To a neutral person (someone you do not have an opinion about): “May you be happy, as I wish to be happy…..”
5. To a difficult or hostile person: “May you be happy, as I wish to be happy…..”
6. To all beings: “May all beings be happy, as I wish to be happy…..”

Take time to allow the image of yourself or the other person to come into your mind before repeating the words. Focus and repeat the refrain as often as you wish.

When you are finished, reflect on the effects Metta practice has had. Notice how you move through the rest of your day, how you interact with those close to you as well as strangers. This can be a powerful exercise, and is said to have profound health and wellness benefits, not to mention that people will want to be around you without even knowing why!

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Heather Stang, MA, C-IAYT

About the author

Heather Stang, MA, C-IAYT, is a thanatologist, author, grief educator, and speaker who helps people live with loss through mindfulness, self-compassion, and practical grief support. She is the creator of the 8-Step Mindfulness and Grief System, which is featured in The Handbook of Grief Therapies, and the recipient of the 2025 Association for Death Education and Counseling Clinical Practice Award.

Heather is the author of Living with Grief, From Grief to Peace, and Navigating Loss. Through her books, speaking, training, podcasting, and client work, she helps grieving people and helping professionals move beyond myths and platitudes into more honest, compassionate, and sustainable ways of living and working with loss.

Her work is shaped by both professional training and lived experience. Raised in a family marked by profound loss, Heather grew up in what she describes as an ecosystem of grief. Years later, yoga and mindfulness opened a path toward healing that eventually led her to yoga therapy, thanatology, and the development of her mindfulness-based approach to grief.

Heather hosts the Mindfulness and Grief Podcast, serves on the Advisory Board for TAPS, and speaks internationally for bereavement organizations, healthcare systems, mindfulness communities, and grief-adjacent professionals. She is based in Frederick, Maryland.

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