Divorce is more than the end of a relationship—it’s the loss of a shared future, of roles, routines, and even a version of yourself. Grieving it doesn’t mean you’re failing. It means you’re human.
Divorce isn’t just a legal process—it’s a major personal loss that impacts every aspect of your life. It can stir up a complex mix of emotions: sadness, anger, regret, and in some cases, relief.
What you’re feeling right now isn’t just a reaction to the end of a relationship—it’s a grief response. One that deserves attention, compassion, and space to unfold at your own pace.
Just like grief after a death, grief after divorce or separation impacts each person differently. You might be feeling everything all at once—or nothing at all. That’s normal.
How you experience this depends on so many things: your history with loss, your attachment style, your coping skills, and how much support you have right now. The circumstances of the breakup—whether it was mutual, sudden, or filled with conflict—can shape the intensity and duration of the pain. This is a deeply personal experience, and there’s no single “right” way to go through it.
You deserve support that understands the emotional complexity of this kind of loss.
Get Compassionate Support for Life After Divorce
This is a safe, supportive space to show up exactly as you are—with all the feelings you may not feel comfortable sharing elsewhere.
The emotional pain of divorce is real. You may be grieving not just the person, but the future you imagined, your sense of identity, or even your belief in love itself. It’s a form of disenfranchised grief, often minimized by society, even though it touches every aspect of life.
In our work together, we won’t just talk—we’ll practice. Mindfulness, guided self-inquiry, and compassionate awareness become tools you can take with you between sessions.
You might notice I use the word coaching instead of counseling. To me, it’s more than semantics. While counseling often focuses on healing the past, coaching is about supporting your growth into the future. It’s about who you’re becoming—not just what you’ve been through.
That said, grief doesn’t follow a clean timeline. It loops and spirals. So yes, we’ll honor what’s behind you, but we’ll also look at what’s ahead. What you need. Who you want to be. And how to live with this loss—without letting it define you.
My approach helps you move through three vital stages of readjustment:
1. Cope With the Pain
Learn to face your emotions without being overwhelmed by them. Together, we’ll use mindfulness and breath-based tools to calm your nervous system and reduce anxiety, rumination, and sleeplessness.
2. Adjust to the Changes
From shared parenting to solo holidays, I’ll help you explore how to meet your needs with resilience and clarity. This includes rewriting roles, building new routines, and dealing with unexpected waves of grief.
3. Become Who You Want to Be
This is your time to reconnect with your values, strengthen your self-trust, and envision the life you want to build. I’ll help you move from people-pleasing or avoidance into secure self-connection—without toxic positivity or shame.
Why Choose Heather as your Divorce Grief Coach
You deserve more than basic support—you deserve a grief expert who gets the complexity of love, loss, and identity.
- 2025 ADEC Clinical Practice Award Recipient – Honored by the Association of Death Education and Counseling for excellence in applying research in clinical practice
- Featured in the Handbook of Grief Therapies – My 8-step Mindfulness & Grief System is included in one of today’s most respected grief counseling textbooks
- Author of Navigating Loss – A guide to coping with non-death losses like divorce, estrangement, and life transitions. I am the author of several other books and chapters on adapting to life's many changes
- Certified Phoenix Rising Yoga Therapist – Rooted in mindfulness and the belief that your body holds valuable insight, this approach helps you tune into your inner experience, notice what’s true in the present moment, and make choices aligned with your values.
- Integrated Attachment Theory Coach – I help you understand and heal your attachment style—whether it’s anxious, avoidant, disorganized, or secure—and support you in moving toward secure functioning by recognizing your needs, setting healthy boundaries, and building a more compassionate relationship with yourself
A Holistic Approach To Navigating Relationship Loss
I don’t believe in quick fixes or surface-level support. And I definitely don’t believe you’re broken. I’ve been where you are—divorce turned my world upside down, too. Letting go of the future I thought I’d have was painful and disorienting. But I’ve done this work myself. That’s why I show up with deep respect, zero judgment, and a steady belief that you can move through this and become even more connected to who you truly are.
Instead, we’ll take a grounded, evidence-informed, compassionate approach to your healing. With practices you can use in your daily life—like reflective worksheets, guided meditations, journaling prompts, and somatic awareness—you’ll learn to rebuild trust with yourself, even if others have let you down.
This is more than coping. It’s a re-education in self-care and self-respect.
Work With an Award-Winning Grief & Loss Expert
I’ve spent the last 15 years walking beside people who are grieving—people like you, navigating the pain of a major life change, looking for a path forward that feels both honest and hopeful.
I hold a master’s degree in Thanatology, the study of death, dying, and bereavement, and I specialize in the kind of grief that isn’t always acknowledged or understood—like the grief that comes after a divorce. In 2025, I received the Clinical Practice Award from the Association for Death Education and Counseling for my work in this field.
I’m also a certified Integrated Attachment Theory Relationship Coach and a Phoenix Rising Yoga Therapy practitioner. These tools allow me to support you not just intellectually or emotionally, but somatically—helping you reconnect with your body, understand your patterns, and rebuild a sense of safety and trust from the inside out.
I’m the author of Navigating Loss (non-death), Living With Grief (death), and From Grief to Peace (a guided journal), and I lead the Awaken Online Grief Support Program. My approach blends mindfulness, movement, journaling, and self-inquiry to help you cope with difficult emotions, grow through adversity, and create a life that feels aligned with who you are becoming.
Online Divorce Grief Coaching in Frederick, MD
You can choose to work with me online from anywhere in the U.S., or in person in Frederick, Maryland. Each session is one-on-one and tailored to you. You’ll receive:
- Personalized coaching for your unique experience of divorce or relationship loss
- Mindfulness-based tools grounded in grief psychology and attachment theory
- Home practices to support your healing between sessions
Session Rate & Free 20-Minute Clarity Call
The rate for each 50-minute counseling session is $150. A free 20-minute clarity call is required prior to scheduling an appointment. This gives us a chance to connect, explore your needs, and make sure we’re a good match before getting started.
